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How to configure the appearance of the open file tabs bar in UE v15.00 and later?The shading effect of the symbols in menu and toolbar can't be disabled, at least I can't find such an option. Since UE v15.00 UltraEdit uses GDIPlus which is required for the auto-hide feature of the views and other features and is working better with Windows Vista and Windows 7. I think, IDM will not implement old MFC GUI additionally.
I use Windows XP with Windows Classic theme and all visual effects disabled for best performance including disabling the title bar shading (= GUI of Windows 95). But the shading effect of the symbols does not really bother me and other state of the art applications like Opera 10.51 use the same shading also for the Windows Classic scheme.
However, I use a very minimalized GUI to have as much space as possible for the documents. The views are by default all disabled and I use hotkeys to enable/disable a view when needed. Although I use it very rarely, I have a customized toolbar at top of the UltraEdit window. In UEStudio (= working with projects) I use multiple toolbars. You can increase the height for the document windows when you arrange the toolbars vertically on left or right side instead of horizontal arrangement on top or bottom. Last but not least there is also the full screen mode.